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so that you both win!

Here's the 7 things (if you've only got 10 seconds to read):

1. Listen
2. Be Silent
3. Repeat what she said
4. Listen carefully (yes, again)
5. Don't overreact
6. Be considerate
7. Live and let go!

1. Listen - Yes, I'm sure you've all heard it before, but one of the primary keys (reminds me of databases) to any successful marriage is listening! Look at her so that she knows you're paying attention. Don't jump the gun to quickly and make sure that you are not just waiting for your turn to argue. So in order to do this, you must...
2. Be Silent - Don't interrupt! Let her finish her thoughts even if you are 100% sure she is wrong. (And even if she is wrong, you really don't want to throw it in her face. more later) This one really goes hand in hand with the listening, if you are trying to speak and not being silent, then you are not listening! Bite your tongue, hold your breath, clear your and understand what she is saying by...
3. Repeat(ing) what she said - Yes, scientists have proved it in countless studies: Regurgitating is essential to understanding. By hearing yourself repeating what your wife just said you gain a better understanding of what she said and clarify anything you didn't understand. Once you finish regurgitating...
4. Listen carefully (yes, again) - You will earn more respect from your wife and she will probably be more receptive to your thoughts just because of the fact that you were listening. Especially if you are usually hardheaded and don't normally pay attention. She'll think: "Wow, he actually paid attention to what I said, maybe I should listen, too." Remember, don't be stubborn and ...
5. Don't overreact - It doesn't matter if she is completely wrong. Let her have her say. Maybe she just needs to vent a little or just wants to let out some frustration. Let her! Who knows, maybe she'll resolve the "argument" herself after she calms down and notices that you are actually listening. That's part of your duties as a REAL partner. You hear each other out and help each other. So guys, please...
6. Be considerate - You are considerate when you do all of the above and when you help her understand (that you are always right, just joking! :) that you are willing to resolve any issues that you may have. Also, let your wife save face if she is wrong. It's not a competition. It's a partnership! (If it isn't...well, I won't go there...) You are in it for the long haul so make sure you...
7. Live and let go! - as much as humanly possible! And if you for some reason "can't" (which is a bad word for me) come to an agreement, then agree to disagree.

BTW, if anyone else besides husbands reads this (yes, I'm talking to you, wife of husband), you can apply the 7 steps to arguing yourself. Come on, you know you want to! :)

twitter ya later and now back to work...

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Masturbation may prevent prostate cancer - Yahoo! News

I tried not to blog about it, but I couldn't resist... ;-)

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I just saw this article about the world's billionaires and am inspired. I do want to be a billionaire, but its not all about the money since I figure that after having a net worth of $100 million (which is no where near my current net worth), there is no real big difference in being a billionaire. I'd like to be a billionaire because I essentially want to do what Bill Gates does, invest in and improve the world's future.

So what's my goal. I want to be a billionaire by the age of 40! My approach will be to continue to invest in real estate and expand my investment in innovative companies like TerraCycle.

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